I hear gossips.
He has posted weird pictures, videos, and statuses on his social media. (Even myself, everybody has their own type of weirdness, at least. That is his.) Somebody told me, "He is gay."
This guy likes this girl. Now, she is taken. This guy has met her boyfriend once. He completely makes fun of her boyfriend as a shy, weird guy.
Somebody speculated about the North Bay Wildfires. He told me, "An Asian mafia gang started the fire. They get paid to do it. This gang has been going on since the 1970s."
Somebody disappointedly told me, “Mannn...Calvin Harris is mainstream now.” I honestly answered, “It is great. He is rich and famous now.”
When gossip occurs, this comes in my mind saying, "You cannot say what you do not know." (From James Franco's movie, "City by the Sea.")
Yes, I have thoughts in my head. I used to gossip all day. Truthfully, it was a way of bringing myself confidence. (Put others down as I boost my confidence.)
Now, I have learned how to manage my mind. (Be humble to others. Do not expect anything in return. Be your true-self. A good friend told me this.)
It is a waste of time to gossip all day. (I do not hate gossipers. This is only coming from my point of view. Be who you want to be.)
I rather chill and connect.
First and foremost, I am not here to preach you. (I do not want to be Mr. Know-It-All.)
It is up to you.
I can only tell you,
"Make the change, or stay the same. You choose your life. It is understanding who you are."
This is one of my life quotes from my previous blog post.
Now, I rather learn about somebody than talk about myself. (Neglect this blog.)
Yes, I am more open-minded now than before. (This blog says it all.)
Ask, and listen.
(Do not interrogate somebody. Do not keep asking a question immediately followed by another question. For instance, I know somebody who does that. She would ask me, “How are you?” Then, I would answer, “I am good.” She immediately asks me another question, “How’s life?” And so on.)
First and foremost, be a good listener.
This past weekend, I met a mutual friend. My friends and I stayed at a log cabin in Truckee, California using an online app, AirBNB. Everybody went grocery shopping, except me and this mutual friend.
We started to connect. I asked, and listened. Then, he began to vent about his recent family situation.
Also, I advised one of my good friends.
He needed help with a lady. (Like his father, he talks more than he listens.) I only told him, “Ask, and listen.”
After you are done reading this, have the time to patiently know somebody.
Based on experience throughout my life.
Be kind to everybody. (Honestly, it is tough. I am slowly training my mind.)
Most importantly, do not expect any kindness in return.
(I was always this type of person. I admit it. For example, I wrote a blog post, "Ungrateful People." I hold grudges. I am glad that I am fully aware of it. Now, I want to let go of holding grudges. Fighting ain't worth it. Sorry, ungrateful people.)
Classical Greek philosopher and mathematician, Plato, once said, "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle."
(Acknowledge their scapegoat. Do not give them a harder battle. Do not win yourself. Try to remove your ego. You are not a "push-over." Again, be kind.)
If I am not able to be kind, I close my eyes. Then, I take 3 deep breaths as I lift my tongue touching the roof of my mouth.
If you catch me looking at you, I will smile. For instance, as I was hiking, a stranger walked past me. He told me something like, "I like your forever smile. Keep smiling." I said, "Thank you."
If you beat me in a tennis match or basketball game, I will congratulate you.
If you honk at me on the road, I will give you a thumbs up.
Be happy. Be free. Let it be.
Kindness is passed on from photo shown below. A sweet, old lady photobombed with a smile. Hopefully, I made you smile as well. If so, kindness is passed on again. 😁
Yesterday, I was with my friend's family at a restaurant.
They wanted to take a group picture.
One person handed her iPhone to server. (Group picture was taken.)
Then, her iPhone was returned.
I saw the group picture. First, I undoubtedly looked at myself.
(I admit it. When a group picture is taken, I always see myself.)
Ego was set.
"Yuh. I look good. The group picture is great."
I was driving.
I wanted to change lane. I saw an opening as I began to shimmy my way through the left lane.
(I turned on my left signal light, before I slowly committed.)
The driver honked at me. (He was upset that I cut him.)
I stuck my arm out of my window, and I gave him a thumbs up (as a "thank you"). Then, I looked through my side mirror. He gave me a thumbs down. (It was quite entertaining.)
Whoa. This is my 100th blog post. I am shocked and amazed. Yuh.
Alright. I am gonna write 5 facts about myself.
1. I moved around a bit. My dad was in the US Navy. As a preschooler and kindergartener, I lived in East Meadow, New York. As a first and second grader, I lived in Portland, Texas. (FYI, famous singer, Selena, died in Corpus Christi, which is about 9 miles to where I was living. This happened in 1995. RIP, Selena.) From third grade until now, I have lived in the Bay Area.
2. Possibly, I am ambidextrous. I started writing with my left-hand. However, I was taught how to write with my right-hand instead. I play basketball with my left-hand, but I play tennis with my right-hand.
3. I used to have dimples.
4. Throughout my life, I have chosen many different hairstyles: Bald, mullet, huge afro, high-top fade, crew cut, bowl cut, mohawk, faux hawk, pompadour, and slicked back. (Yuh, mix it up.) I am very grateful that I still have hair. (I am no way near from going bald.) Perhaps, my next hairstyle is dreadlocks.
5. When I was 21 years old, I had a girlfriend. To this day, she was my only girlfriend. Patience is the key. (Enjoy life.)
Post a comment below, if you want me to write more facts about myself on my future blog post.
At Vancouver International Airport, I stood in line to order a cup of Starbucks coffee.
It happened last Thursday at 11ish am. My flight departure was at 12:45pm but it was delayed at 3pm. (Then, delayed at 4:30. Lastly, delayed at 5:30pm.)
I was flying back home to San Francisco International Airport.
As I stood in Starbucks line, I saw an old lady slowly walking with her white cane. Everybody was looking at her. (Most people do not see and encounter a blind person every day.)
Last night, I met this cute lady at my cousin's wedding.
We sat together at the wedding reception. I believe we had a connection. I assumed by looking at her eyes, as we talked. (I enjoy meeting new people, and connecting with them.)
I told her, "I'll be in Canada until Thursday."
A day after the wedding, she texted me, "I appreciate this. However, I don't see this going anywhere. No chemistry for me. Sorry."
I replied, "Thanks for your honesty 👍! No need to apologize." (The average guy would say something like, "Forget her! That's her loss!" I used to say that.)
She replied, "Enjoy the rest of your stay!"
I replied, "Thank you very much! 😁"
Let it be! Respect the lady.
(Remember that Nickelodeon TV cartoon show, Doug)
Blogger, College grad, Hiker, & Traveler.