The past is remembered. Live in the moment. The future is in you.
-Mike Caceres, who is a blogger, hiker, and traveler
-Mike Caceres, who is a blogger, hiker, and traveler
At a hostel in San Sebastien, I saw a book shelf on lounge area. I found an interesting book, The Art of Happiness, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Handbook for Living, written by Dalai Lama, and Howard C. Cutler.
I decided to finish reading it, before I checked out from hostel. (I did.)
The book explained about being able to train mind, and achieve happiness. (Thanks for the advice. I will apply this in my life.) Every day, life is an up and down journey.
When nothing goes my way, I always tell myself, "I am alive, and breathing."
A while ago, my teacher from Sonoma State University told me, and my class, "Stress and Diet." If I am able to relieve my stress, and eat somewhat a healthy diet, I possibly live a longer life.
I mentioned this before in one of my previous blog entries. My high school PE coach told me, and my class, "Life is all about choices." You can say whatever you want to me. At the end of the day, I make the decision. It can be either right, or wrong. Perhaps, I may never know the answer at all. As time never stops, choices keep going, until the day I die.
When I was younger, I would have a difficult time to say "no" to people. I have realized that it is impossible to please everybody. I read a book that helped me a lot in saying "no" to people. It told me, "Sorry, I will not be able to make it." (Sorry, I forgot the title of the book.)
Earlier today, during my group job interview, I was asked, "What would you be doing 5 years from now?"
"That is a very good question. That would be tough. I cannot exactly answer you that question. 5 years ago, I hated reading, and writing. Now, I love it. I am a blogger. If I ever get this job, I would build a skill. Last year, I read a book about developing different skills in different jobs. Sorry, I forgot the title of the book. The book explained that I am able to build more experience, and apply it for my passion. Everything is connected. I am planning to become a realtor, and I will be working for my good friend's dad. He has been a realtor, and broker for the last 33 years. I would build another skill as well. I love my blog on journaling, and my Instagram account on hiking. 5 years from now, hopefully, I can find myself a woman. We shall see. I continue on reinventing myself." I responded to her, and the 2 candidates.
Everybody laughed at my ending words.
In my life, I continue on applying my natural superhuman power of peacefulness, gratefulness, and forgiveness. (I have mentioned this many times in my previous blog entries.) Also, I continue on building relationships, and connecting with people.
Ask, and listen. (So, I can hear more stories from people, and learn from it. Everybody has a story to tell.)
We live in an imperfect world. Do what you gotta do. Go with what you want. It's your choice. It's your life.
Peace be with you.
When I meet a solo woman traveler, I would usually ask her,
"What has been your most creepiest encounter from men?"
I am curious.
Here are their stories:
Woman #1: A 67-year-old man in my hostel's mixed dorm room told me, "I see your toes wiggling, when you lay down on your bed. That is a sign of giving birth."
Woman #2: I was traveling alone for the first time ever in Rome. This was 5 years ago. I was walking alone late at night. Suddenly, a motorcycle was trailing me. He was following me for the last 20 minutes or so. I was afraid. He stopped, and whipped his penis at me. I ran away from him. Luckily, I found an open bar for the meantime. I was able to use their phone. My friend picked me up from the bar.
Woman #3: From Couchsurfing, I hosted a man. He was super shy and quiet on the first day. On the next day, we were reading a book together. He came closer to me. He went for the kiss. I was surprised. I pulled away. He was upset. Thus, he left my cat door open. He wanted my cat to escape from my house.
Woman #4: He expressed his feelings to me. I told him, "Sorry, I am not into you like that." He was upset. He left me. Then, he stalked me by moving closer to me from where I was staying at.
When I was a kid, I never talked to girls. I was timid to even approach them. I always wished that they were going to approach me, but it never happened.
I used to be extremely upset, if a woman rejected me.
Now, I approach women in a friendly, respectfully way. If a woman rejects me, I would listen to her.
Respect the lady.
We are different in our own way. (It sounds too vague, but it is true.)
For instance, I will talk to you about my friends, and family.
- Every time she explores a great view for the first time, she is snapping a picture of it. Surprisingly, she does it only for her own photo album, not social media.
"Do you want a picture?" I always ask her.
Most importantly, I have improved a lot in taking pictures.
- Throughout his life, Jon was never a jump shooter in basketball, until recently. He barely plays basketball every single day.
"You are a meditator." I tell him, after every pickup basketball game.
He has taught me to relax my mind, even if my jump shot is not falling.
- Uncle Jun gets discounts, and deals through his persuasion.
"You know how to sweet talk," I tell him.
He has shown me the master of persuasion, even though I am not gonna apply it.
- For the last 5 months, Kirby has been my personal trainer at the gym.
"Thank you, trainer." I tell him.
He has made me believe in progression.
- My mom is very superstitious.
"If it is what keeps you going and living, I respect your superstition," I tell her.
It is impressive how she trusts her loved ones, such as her family and friends.
- My dad enjoys playing video games, such as his Xbox One game, "Gears of War 4."
"This is our only father-and-son bonding time," I tell him.
Anybody can play video games.
I am entertained by their differences. Also, I have learned from them.
I cannot force somebody to change. I can only change myself.
Do what you gotta do. It is your choice. It is your life.
It is understanding who people are, and making adjustments.
2018 was a long year for me.
Most people see social media as the highlight reel of our lives.
Society wants us to get a successful job, a good-looking partner, a huge house, a brand new car, a college degree, and etc. I only have a college degree, and that is it. I do not want to pursue it though.
Throughout this year, I have been unemployed. Say what you want. It is impossible to please everybody. Society looks down upon the unemployed. Thank you, Mom, and Dad, for helping me out.
Next year will be a new chapter in my life. No more unemployment.
Even though I was unemployed, I have reinvented myself through solo traveling, reconnecting with family in Philippines, reading books, building relationships, selling unused items, coming at peace to others, and many more (that I cannot think at the top of my head right now).
My life lessons in 2018:
Also, I met a women from London at a hostel in Shanghai. She is 67 years old. "What are you doing in Shanghai?" she asked me. "I want to play basketball," I answered.
She was in disbelief. A day later, she told me, "I understand. That is what you love to do."
Everybody is different in our own way. That sounds vague. I respect their belief, religion, and etc.
(These life lessons are in no particular order, whatsoever.)
These four life lessons have unleashed my natural human superpower of peacefulness, forgiveness, and gratefulness.
4 life lessons. 4 corners. They connect, and need each other. That forms a square.
A new year only indicates that time never stops. I try to continue on reinventing myself.
HAPPY NEW YEAR.
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