I hear many stories from people.
Call myself a good listener.
One time, I heard somebody’s side of the story. He vented to me about a family situation.
All I told him, “You are going with what you want, while the other side is going with what they want. Everybody is on a different page. This will be ongoing, then.”
He knows I am not choosing sides. (I get along with him and the other side.) I honestly told him, “I will see them (the other side) tomorrow morning.”
He asked me about how is the other side’s family doing. After we parted ways, I gave him a hug. I am a hugger. I am at peace.
On the the next day, I realized most people are curious about their enemy, not only him. The only source to know about your enemy is talking to somebody who remains in contact with them.
I used to be curious about my enemies. I always wanted to know how my enemies were doing. I always wanted to be better than them. That is what kept me going in life. This was unhealthy.
If you do not like somebody, you go on giving them criticism. I admit that. I used to have many enemies. I would hold grudges as well. That was my younger-self.
I am not here trying to point fingers at people. I used to do that all the time. Now, I like telling stories about others, and especially myself based on experience.
I used to judge others because it made me feel better. Now, I observe others to learn better.
For instance, I met a nice, old British lady in Shanghai. She held a grudge to her dad. 2 years later, he died. She went to his bedroom, and found an apology letter from him to her. She was in tears.
Most people do not want to talk about death. It is arbitrary. Honestly, we are going to die eventually.
Go on grudging with your enemies or not. Go with what you want. It’s your choice. It’s your life. Death might perhaps bring everybody together.
It is a cycle of togetherness. You born, you live, and you die. A baby is born. We are brought together with happiness. When somebody dies, we might possibly come together with sadness.
Live in the moment. I continue on being humble and compassionate to others, like Jesus.
“Love your neighbor as yourself.” -from Bible passage on Mark 12:31