Fantasy is an instant gratification. It is my imagination. I can say whatever I desire in my mind. (I want it now.)
Reality is everyday life. I experience "it" through my five senses: See, touch, smell, taste, and hear. Remember, it takes time to get whatever I desire in my mind. (Trust the process.)
We live in an imperfect world.
Examples of Fantasy versus Reality shown below.
Fantasy: When I was a kid, I enjoyed writing on my Christmas wish list every December. I wanted to receive everything, such as toys, video games, clothes, and etc. (What is "enough?")
Reality: It was impossible to check off my Christmas wish list.
Fantasy: I want to have a pretty girlfriend. (It looks easy in a 90-minute romantic comedy movie.)
Reality: I must know her first. I have to set a date and time for a meetup. (Is she willing to meetup with me?) She has to like me for another date. And so on. (Step-by-step.) Respect the lady.
Fantasy: I want to copy sex positions from porn with my future partner.
Reality: Porn looks perfect but it is edited. They take almost a day to get the best footage. My future partner and I might not handle every sex position in one time. We have to make adjustments (and go with what we like). It takes tolerance. My future partner and I are working together for the "best" pleasure.
Fantasy: The greatest picture in social media.
Reality: My friend and I saw a group of young women continuously taking pictures of each other in front of La Sagrada Familia Basilica church in Barcelona for one hour. (Finding the "perfect" lighting, pose, angle, and area.)
Everything and everybody around you takes time. It is a process. Do not focus on its final product only. For example, Nike has always been successful. (Not necessarily.) It took patience and persistence for the founder of Nike, Phil Knight, to start and grow his brand.
He explained it in his book, Shoe Dog. When he was 24 years old, he traveled the world in the 1960s. He created a "crazy idea" by importing Japanese running shoes into America. Knight experienced an up-and-down journey in Nike.
Go with what you can only control. For example, Michael Carter Williams of the Philadelphia 76ers was named NBA rookie of the year on 2014. Currently, he is a 27-year-old free agent waiting for an NBA team to sign him. (You cannot control the outcome.)
Name one fantasy in your mind now. What is its reality to you? How are you able to make adjustments?