The past is remembered. Live in the moment. The future is in you.
-Mike Caceres, who is a blogger, hiker, and traveler
No need to be specific in uploading pictures, and adding their names. Writing a blog about it is already good enough. Importantly, I am not asking for an apology, and I am not begging for sympathy.
Truthfully, I am writing my point of view.
I rarely criticized this one person. I will always give him credit for developing my game in sports. (Thank you so much.)
I was in shock when somebody told me he was criticizing me. Then, I asked that somebody, "Have I ever criticized him before? Name me at least one criticism. If I had a problem with him, I straightforwardly tell him." That somebody had no response. (At the time, that somebody was close with us.)
(When you trust somebody, you do not expect them to gossip about you. It reminds me of the old MTV series, "Diary," introducing their slogan, "You think you know...but you have no idea." The series is about celebrities documenting their daily lives.)
Next up are "these people." (Remember them as you read further down.) I fully sacrificed my time to make them become better people. Yes, I was harsh on them, and I apologize for that. For example, I yelled at them when they did something wrong. (Terrible on my part. I scared them. No wonder, they hardly opened up to me. Lesson learned.) As of now, I believe I have controlled my temper ever than before.
(Throughout my years with them, my temper has improved. I even told them that as well.)
Before they moved into a new house, I told them, "Sooner or later, you will forget about me. What importantly matters is if you become a better person than me, I will be happy as long as you are happy." (Short talk with them is fake talk, therefore I completely ignore them. In my records, they truly define, who ungrateful people are.)
On to another person. Few years ago, I confessedly told this person, "We always gossip about you. I am sorry for talking about you behind your back." (I believe I was the only person out of the group to open up, and apologize.)
(But then again, everybody has different type of friendships. Some friendships only want to have fun, and goof off. Some friendships enjoy deep talks. All in all, it depends on the person you talk to.)
We continued to become friends until this happened. He really begged me to show up at a 3 day music festival. During that weekend, he hardly reached out to me. (At least, hangout with me one time for 5 minutes.)
The festival had ended. On a late Monday night, he texted me, "Where you at?" (I was flying back home the next morning.)
Few days later, I told him face-to-face in a nice way, "You really wanted me to go to this festival, and you hardly reached out to me. That's horrible." (Yelling will not do any good.)
Then he said, "I thought you were with the friend you met in the plane." (I walked out on him. Obviously, we were on a different page.)
Time has changed. I have not talked to these people in a while. Call myself an enemy, or not. Call it a grudge. When I do run into them, I will still acknowledge them with either a friendly wave, or conversation. (This neglects "these people." I only have a complete grudge on them.)
Actually, I have ran into these ungrateful people I have mentioned, once in a while, unexpectedly. Yes, I acknowledged them, except "these people."
Yes, I am pointing fingers at ungrateful people. So far, you think I am perfect.
I was very ungrateful to one of my good friends. I was being a jerk. (I do not usually reach out to my good friends for a hangout. I do not initiate it. Instead, they do.) He asked me to hangout several times, but I usually answered, "I'm busy." (He understood, and stopped asking me.)
Few months later, I heard his cousin and her friend were visiting the Bay Area from SoCal. I had a crush on his cousin's friend. (She was single at that time. First time I met her, she was taken.) So, I met up with his cousin and her friend. Suddenly, my good friend was there.
It was awkward. (I realized that I was the ungrateful friend.) They went upstairs, and left us alone to talk about our situation. My good friend told me, "Bros before hoes." Like I said earlier, yelling back at each other will not do any good. Finally, we talked. Importantly, I apologized for my horrible wrongdoing.
(Communication is the key. We talked it out. There's no such thing as a perfect relationship, like in one of my previous entries. Like how my good friend and I talked it out, the relationship builds stronger, once we overcome our problem together.)
No way, I can settle and talk it out to the "ungrateful people." I believe they are wrong, so why bother reaching out to them. (If they view the same thing towards me, then let it be.)
Forgive and forget. (No need to explain it. You already know what it means.) Forget that. The relationship will always be the same, then.
We are who we are. (Soon-to-be NBA legend, Kobe Bryant once said this.) I can always say what I want, but I can only change myself, not others. (But then again, they are the type of people, who do not like to talk things out. I cannot force them, and I understand. It will not be like it was once before.)
It is tough, for the reason that, I have to be aware what I say, or else I am a hypocrite.
Why waste my time being concerned about ungrateful people?
Because it is good to know who my real, true friends are. That way, I stay away from them.
I just vented.
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