39) All I Want For Christmas is a Lady...

...to connect with,

​like this video clip from TV series, "Roswell," shown below.

(I am sitting and writing this blog post alone as usual.)

I am a lonely blogger. I am being a needy, hopeless romantic.

Do you believe in soulmates?
Absolutely not. (I am here waiting for so-called soulmate. Nothing is happening.)

For instance, waiting and writing for "one" lady to find me. (Very highly, unlikely. I am not the movie character, James Bond. This is reality.)

What should I do?
Stop complaining and whining. Go out more. (Find, approach, and talk.)

​Honestly, I do not want to play the "game." (Thinking of the perfect line to tell her, such as "I want to connect" or "All I want for Christmas is you." Then, knowing what to do next in the "game." Only aiming for the phone number other than trying to mainly connect with her.)

​Always be myself.

Connect each other with a common interest, like this conversation shown below. (It already has started. 3 minutes later, she asked me.)

Attractive bank teller lady: What do you do?

Me: I am a tennis coach.

Attractive bank teller lady: I play tennis too.

Me: Let's hit. (I hand her a paper and pen.)

Attractive bank teller lady: (She giggles.) Sorry, I have a boyfriend.

After this, I could not walk out anyway, for the reason that, she was still working on my account. I could have been silent to the end, but I did not.

(3 years ago, I would have taken it extremely personal. I was a sore loser. I would overthink and tell myself, "She does not really have a boyfriend." I wanted things to go my way.)

​Instead, I continually enjoyed talking to her.

Why I wrote this good recent conversation?

I was myself. Remember, always be myself. (Make it simple using "myself" than "genuine.") When I tell myself, "Always be genuine." It makes me do too much.

I have grown as a person. First and foremost, I want to connect. (Last month, I wrote a blog post, "Connect.")

Start finding, approaching, and talking. (Sounds like I am only going to do this for one straight hour.) Truly, I would think of this as a "numbers" game. I hate this mindset.

​I must calibrate myself. For instance, conversation shown above came natural. (I was not pressured to do it.) First, I was running errands to the bank. Then, I unexpectedly ran into a bank teller. (As we were friendly talking, a common interest was brought up.)

Enough with my points.

Relationship goals: