188) Me and Women

I'm single. And I'm okay with it.

I'm a man seeking a woman.

I've been on dates. And I'm for it. (Because I'm still single.)

Each woman I've met or approached is different in their own way.

​I like this woman in China. Her name is Yu. I met her last year. I approached her at a small cafe located at the Shanghai French Concession.

We went on a few dates before I flew to Hong Kong.

I sang a song, "Miss Independent," by Ne-Yo to her in a mini-karaoke booth. Because she moved to Shanghai for work as an accountant.

We switched off for every song. It was her turn. And she sang a slow song to me in Mandarin Chinese. I did not understand it at all. I was delighted. Because I saw her cute face as I heard her angel voice.

​She sang better than me. (Everybody does too.) Hands down.

Then I  decided to rap to one of Eminem's classic hits, "The Real Slim Shady." She was more impressed with my rapping than my singing.

After karaoke, we teamed up together to achieve a high score on a basketball arcade game. (She loves to play and watch basketball as well.)

​Our goal was to take the most made shots before time expires. We were hooked on it for about an hour. Because we challenged ourselves to keep earning a better score than our top score. We were shooting for a record. 

We contact each other here and there to this day through WeChat.

A short video shown below of me and her. It was taken at a hot pot restaurant from last year.

I like this woman. I have talked about her in one of my previous blog entries, A Pretty Lady Visits Me. She lives in Nevada while I live in California. We are not ready to be in a relationship right now.  

I was dating overseas with foreign women during my solo travel adventure from last year. But they stopped responding to me when I arrived home.

(I told my friend about it. He said it wasn't going anywhere. Because he's not for long-distance relationships.)

I can't force women to like me. (Give the lady freedom to choose.)

I can't only focus on how I feel. (It's not always about me.)

​For instance, my younger-self would feel upset when a woman never replied to me. And I would secretly hate her. Then I would overthink the situation. I would either regret the past or oversee the future about her.

​I enjoy sex. But I won't and can't force women to have sex with me. 

Because women go through sexual violence. Me Too Movement allows women to speak and open up about their sexual allegations and assaults. 

Time never stops. Yet I remember the great moments I cherished with each woman I've met or approached. 

I've been single for 11 years. Let's say I like her. And it's not guaranteed we are going to be in a relationship. 

Let it be.

I shall see.

​One day, I'll write stories about my future girlfriend.