MY OLD-SELF IN ACT OF KINDNESS:
I treated others with kindness. For the reason that, I always expected others to be kind in return.
For instance, I used to like everybody's Facebook post, so you can like my post as well.
If I did not expect any kindness in return, I would be extremely upset.
For instance, my younger cousins came here in America from the Philippines. I sacrificed my time for them. I taught one how to drive a car. I tutored my other cousin with her homework. I picked up my other cousin from school. I lended my tennis racquet to my other cousin, so she can use it for her high school tennis team. I did a lot for them. I was hurt. They were not thankful and grateful for me. Therefore, I was extremely upset.
I admit it. I wanted something in return for them. I wanted them to thank me.
Now, I see that it is okay. I am happy from them. I do not hate them anymore. I am at peace now.
Go with what my cousins want. It is their choice. It is their life.
MY ACT OF KINDNESS NOW:
I continue on being kind, even if I do not expect anything in return. Honestly, it is impossible to please everybody. For instance, I cannot greet everybody a birthday greeting on Facebook.
I will try my best in being kind to the best of my ability. For instance, I offered in training my basketball skill and knowledge to a family friend. I want him to make junior varsity level in his high school basketball team. I will not force him. Most importantly, it is his choice if he wants to put in the time and effort with the trainer, like myself.
I have changed.
Focus on yourself being humble. No more validation. No more being obligated to.
I am my true-self. I am kind to you. I do not expect anything in return.
That is true kindness.