167) Should I Give You Advice?
"What should I do?" A friend asked me on the phone.
"Do you feel comfortable traveling with your friend to Jamaica?" I asked her.
"That is the answer to your question."
"I like coming to you for advice."
"How do you feel about this lady?" I asked my friend.
"She seems to be 'too much.' She is insecure. I have told her." He told me.
"That is the answer to your question. You can say what you want. At the end of the day, it is up to her. It is understanding who people are and making adjustments."
"It makes sense to talk it out."
"When can I start wearing a v-neck sweater?" My friend's cousin from high school asked me.
"When I was in high school, I wore white skinny jeans. I matched it with my white shirt," I told him. "I was made fun of but it did not seem to bother me."
He looked surprised.
"Go with what you want," I said. "It's your choice. It's your life."
I cannot control you. I ask you questions. I tell you stories. I do not (and will never) know everything. I am not perfect (and I will never be). It is impossible.
I do not like to label myself, such as an adviser, blogger, hiker, seller, college graduate, coach, or any type of label. (I used to.) Because I am validating, recognizing, acknowledging, and promoting myself as "perfect." And this stops me from learning more.
I continue to learn until I die.
"A lot of people confuse excitement with joy, or they confuse happiness with fulfillment. Our careers and our jobs can be exciting and fun and winning the new client and making a big sale," Simon Sinek talks to Marie Forleo in her podcast episode, "Be a Great Leader." "That doesn't mean we are fulfilled. That doesn't mean we are inspired, or we have joy in our lives. And I realized this has been the mistake I have made."
If you are seeking for any advice, I am glad to hear from you. I ask and listen. Most importantly, I continue to learn the importance of empathy and compassion from you. And I can share your story to others as well.
You are helping us: Me and the reader.
"We are designed to take care of each other," Simon Sinek adds.
A story is shared now.