What's Normal?

You're 37 years old. You still live with your parents. You're single. (You've been on dates. It just doesn't work out.) You don't have any kids. You graduated from college with a BS degree a while ago. You're not pursuing it. You don't have a full-time job. You're self-employed.

That's me.

It might not be normal to you.

What is normal?

A friend told me that I must move out of parents' house in order to date and grow.

​A relative told me, "You can start a family only if you go back to school. Study Physical Therapy. Graduate. Then you're set with life."

​Someone told me, "When are you gonna have your own place?"

People don't agree with me. My life isn't normal to them.

​I see the highlight of people's lives in social media. They're successful. I gotta keep the mind in check. People can post anything they want in social media.

For instance, a couple purchased a new house. They post it on Instagram. No one knows that a relative co-signed the home. The couple doesn't give them credit. Welcome to social media.

My revenue isn't enough if I ever start a family. I've followed my passion as a career before. I didn't enjoy it. Now I wanna chase money. I need the money now.

A friend told me that I need to find a middle ground between passion and money, or else your life would be miserable.

I see people with full time jobs. They have the steady paycheck. They always look forward when they're off. Because work is stress. They need a break from work. They would spend it on shopping, dining, or etc. It's a cycle.

I don't want that life. Go with what works for you. 

Society talks about "normal" for me.

Society wants a legacy from me.

Society pressures me.

I'm worried about my life. I want the best version of myself. We're gonna die. We'll be forgotten unless you are Jesus.

Society wants me to be successful without any help from others.

I was born from my parents. I didn't come to this world alone. I help them too. We help each other. 

Be your own normal. You become successful by the help of others.

A friend asked me, "What's your biggest fear in life?"

I responded, "My parents aren't gonna live forever. Am I able to survive without them?"

"I can work," I continued. "I do work. I'll be fine then."

Now I find my balance between passion and money.